Being Brave Is Hard- You Need To Do It Anyway

We are going to get this out of the way right now.

Being brave is hard.

It is scary.

But being brave is not about you.

We have all been given a gift. We all have something we are called to do.

Your gift, your calling is to be used to help and bless others in the way only you can.

It doesn’t matter if you feel scared, unqualified or doubt if it even matters.

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You know why?

Because someone needs you to. They need the wisdom you have. The special tricks, tips and talents that God gave you.

When I first thought about starting this website, would you like to know what I did FOR MONTHS?

Stared at a blank screen, that’s what.

A host of doubts filled my mind. “I don’t have anything of value to say. Who am I to offer advice? What if someone says something mean to me?”

Brave is scary, yet it is imperative that we do it.

I don’t care if it is going out after dark, going on a mission trip, running for public office or something in between.

Do the thing! Because if your life is anything like mine- the scary thing keeps coming back into your life. You may think that you have forgotten about it and then there it is again, smack front and center in your mind.

That is a God-nudge.


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Noun: a slight or gentle push or jog, especially with the elbow. If you ignore it, turns into a strong squeeze.*

God-nudge. A slight or gentle push, usually with the elbow. If you ignore it, turns into a strong squeeze. It’s best to avoid. Nikol Murphy

Now let’s take a minute to chill out.

I say “scary thing”, but I am talking about blogging y’all. I need you to know that I have a flare for the dramatic.

Yes, it is scary to put yourself “out there” into the world. To express your opinions and open yourself up to “the haters”, but on scale of 0-100 100 being the scariest thing you could possibly imagine with the possibility of bodily harm or death happening. This is probably a 15. But it is my 15 and it’s real to me.

I’m sure by now, you have thought of something that you feel nudged to do. Something that keeps popping into your head. You don’t have to “go big” right away. Start small. Help people one on one. Serve locally, then branch out.

If you don’t have anything that comes to mind immediately, I have an exercise that will help you get clarity on where you want your life to go. You can use this as the guideposts to your life. Grab that here!

Maybe you are afraid. Maybe you don’t feel qualified. Maybe you are afraid you will fail. Maybe you are afraid that you will succeed. No matter the fear, you are not sure how you will handle it.

You don’t have to take it all on at once. If you don’t know something, you will learn it. If you get too busy, you will hire help. You will manage step by step.

It has taken me years to rationalize through my concerns. don’t let that happen to you.

I know that God has been calling me to a help to others for years. About every few months I get the tap on the shoulder. I hear Him say, “About that thing I have asked you to do…” I spent so much time making it overly complicated that it never started. Could I blame my chronic illness? Sure? Do I still have an autoimmune disease, but yet here I am blogging? Yes.

What changed?

I needed to look at the situation in a different way. I needed to see that a certain season of my life was over and I needed to transition to something else. I needed to let go of the way I thought things were supposed to be in order to grab onto what is new.

So here I am trying again. facing a whole lot of fear and determined to knock down any obstacle in my way.

I can not wonder “what if” anymore. What if one of my posts, one of my courses, one of my (upcoming) books or a simple image with a quote helps someone become who they are meant to be?

What if that was the day they decided to go for it and ask for a raise?

What if that was the sentence they needed to read in order to just try something?

What if, one of my silly videos brings the only laugh someone gets that day?

So here I am showing up.

I’m far from perfect.

I will forever be a work in progress.

Just know that sometimes it is so scary for me too.

But together we can do this.

With bravery, grace, and laughter, (there must always be laughter) we will live this thing called life!

We will be brave enough to be who we know we should be even in the face of “what they will say” because they always do.

We will offer grace to ourselves when we fall, to others when they doubt us or don’t get it.

We will laugh most often because life should be fun. It is a great distraction and celebration of the being brave bits.

My call to you is to “do your brave”. What is it that you know you are called to do but haven’t?

You should totally do it.

Does it make you so nervous you feel like you may pass out, so you lay on the floor? If you need to lay on the floor, lay on the floor.

Feel like throwing up? By all means grab a bucket.

Let’s stop hiding scared. Blaming our immobility on everything except the actual thing that has caused it. Fear.

I believe in you.

I’ll leave you with two quotes:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” - Theodore Roosevelt 

“We cannot live a brave life without disappointing some people. The people who are rooting for your rise will not be disappointed. The only people who are disappointed are the ones who have their own agenda.” -Oprah

Spread the word!

Snap a picture of you doing your brave thing and tag it #braverygraceandlaughter - I want to start a movement. A sisterhood of brave women (men can hang too) living life with laughter, bravery, and grace.

A place where we can come to get support, offer support and connect. We already have some founding members. Will you join us?

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