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September 6, 2020 by: Nikol Murphy

How to be productive when you can’t plan out your day.

“Nobody has more hope and optimism than a planner that has planned out every hour of her day in pen.”

You have planned, written things down in pen, and are ready to check those boxes!

Super excited about what you have planned out, life comes along and smacks you aside the head.

Realizing that if your day continues like this you don’t have a fighting chance to follow your carefully laid out plan for the day, panic starts to make your heart race. Girl, I feel your pain.

Over the past decade, I have learned to roll with the punches of an unpredictable day and yet still remain productive.

I am a planner by nature. When it comes to productivity, there is NOTHING that makes me happier than a fully checked off checklist. When I got sick over a decade ago, my productivity was one of the things I missed deeply.

I was at a point where I couldn’t predict my days.

Whether it was because of having little kids, my health or a mix of both. Life needed to go on and I needed to figure out how to still be “me” (a productivity fanatic) within my new boundaries.

Here are my top 6 tips for being productive during an unpredictable day.

Mom trying to feed toddler while working on laptop

1. I learned to be flexible.

Oh goodness, is there anything a planner likes more than carrying out the plan laid out for that day?! But as Ross says in Friends when trying to move a couch in a tiny NYC stairwell, “PIVOT!” There are going to be times when you just have to go with it.

I had to re-evaluate my definition of productivity success.

I used to be unforgivingly efficient and productive. Nothing would bother me more than someone that didn’t meet a deadline with excellence. I just didn’t get it. If I had ten things on my to-do list I got them done. Even if that meant staying up until 3am. Now productivity success is based on a weekly view and sometimes even a month view depending on the project.

2. I learned to plan based on my ability for that day.

This could look like whatever is taking up time in your day. Do you have a baby that is nursing 40 hours a week? A toddler giving up naps? An elementary-aged child that is home? For someone with chronic illness, that could look like:  full energy, half energy and no energy as an energy meter.

Take time to block out the times of the day you are busy to see how much time you actually have and how much energy you will need. Don’t forget to block out time for cooking, cleaning, playing with the kids, online or homeschool, and running errands. It all adds up!

3. I learned that I can focus on two major areas of my life a day. No more than that.

Housekeeping, cooking, family, work, homeschool, wife, friend, volunteer…

For me I noticed that I can do two things well most days. When I was a homeschool mom that meant Monday – Friday I had one slot taken up by schooling with the kids. If I spent my other slot on cooking – our week and life would become a wreck. So I asked my husband for help. I planned out the meals and made the shopping list. He shopped for the food and batch cooked the meals for the week. Now that our boys are both teenagers, they take turns cooking as well.

mom is sitting on the floor cross legged with her face down in an overflowing basket of laundry
4. I learned to focus on the “big rocks first”.

Did y’all know that I worked at Franklin Covey “back in the day”?! Yes, girl. I. am. A. planner. Fanatic! I remember reading about the concept in Stephen Covey’s book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People I feel like I had a decent grasp on this concept and actually used it in my life consistently, but it really wasn’t until I had to completely change the way I went about my day that I truly had to take it to heart and be okay with having a few big rocks.

If you are not familiar with the story. A professor had a big glass jar on a table. He had rocks, pebbles and sand. When he poured the sand in first, then the pebbles and tried to fit the big rocks in last- he could not fit them all in. He then dumped everything out and this time, put the big rocks in first, then the pebbles, and last the sand. Everything fit! When you prioritize the big rocks first, you will be able to fit more in your jar (or life).

5. I learned to “let go” and delegate.

I don’t know if this is true for all people that love to plan, but I definitely have a certain (white knuckled) approach to how I like things done. I’m not saying that I am proud of the fact! In order for me to have the space on my daily responsibilities list so that I could pivot and go with the flow more often, I had to learn to let go and delegate. For me that meant lowering my cleanliness standards, handing over the cooking to my husband, delegate a lot of household chores to the kids as they grew, saying no to events, choosing only one volunteering opportunity, saying no to going out with friends, adjusting how often and how I ran errands.  Amazon and Target pick-up have certainly become my friends.

6. I create a daily “Top 3”.

For each day, I list my top three tasks. I work on them in that order. The most important task for that day, gets listed as number one and so on. Getting to tasks two and three are a bonus. I expect to only get the first one done. But if I have enough time, energy and resources to keep going after finishing task #1, I will move on to tasks #2 and #3. Keeping your to-do list this short may take some getting used to. At first, I couldn’t even comprehend how someone could expect to “only” get one thing done a day until I realized that in my current state of overwhelm I wasn’t actually getting anything done. (Yikes!)

Once I got used to looking at my Top 3 first and focusing on them in order, I noticed a few things.

  • I stopped chasing achievement. Many things on my old to-do lists were simply not necessary. Don’t believe me? I used to hand make all of our Christmas cards. Like the whole card. Paint, glitter, personally written poems. It was a whole thing.

  • I shifted my worth from my to-do list to who I was as a person.

  • On some days I was way more productive than I expected.

  • On my worst days, I still moved the needle forward on my to-do list and that helped me not get behind on life.

  • Your to-do list doesn’t make the world go ‘round and we will all be okay if we can’t list a million things that we got done that day.

Okay, your turn!

I love learning new tricks, tips and tweaking my systems. It is a true passion and hobby of mine. So tell me in the comments below!

How do you rock your day when your days vary and are unpredictable?

September 6, 2020 by: Nikol Murphy

How to be happy in the middle of your mess

SO YOUR LIFE IS A BIT OF A MESS.

We are not going to go through qualifiers here. If you feel like life is currently a mess, then it is. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have it as bad as someone else. It doesn’t matter if you have been blessed in so many ways. You get to define your mess and nobody else gets to qualify it for you.

Now that we got that out of the way, let’s learn how to be happy and grateful in the middle of our mess.

Here are my top 5 tips for being happy in life right where you are.

1. Honor and do not disqualify your mess.

“It could always be worse.” Well, yes- it could be worse. Most likely if you are reading this on a smart device with access to the internet, it could be a lot worse. But that is not honoring your current situation.

Listen, we all have stuff to deal with. We all have things that are better and  worse off than others. It does you no good to pretend that just because your mess is not as extreme as someone else’s, it is not real and valid.

2. Feel your feelings.

Feel your feelings, just don’t let them be the boss of you. You are allowed to be sad, mad, frustrated and even not like your current situation. Nope, it does not matter if it could be worse. Your feelings do not need a qualifier. Just don’t get caught up in them.

Spend some time with your feelings, talk about them or journal, work them out while doing an art project or while you take a walk. Then let them know that they are allowed to be felt, but they can not drive your behavior.

I like the analogy of thinking of your feelings as a toddler in your car. They are allowed to sit in the back, safely buckled in your “car of life”. Sometimes, they can be supersweet and sometimes they lose a grip, but one thing is always constant. You are not going to let them drive, no matter how much you love them.

3. Start a daily gratitude list.

I know that gratitude is a popular topic these days, but it is for a good reason! Gratitude is an important part of our mental and emotional well being. It truly helps you love what you spend time being grateful for. Practice long enough and all of a sudden, you honestly love your life.

Whatever we focus on is what we will notice. When we know that we will have to list three things that we are grateful for each day, we start to look for things to be grateful for instead of the things that annoyed us that day.

The smaller the better. Yup! You heard that right. Keep your eye on the small things.

  • Finding a parking spot next to the cart corral.

  • A genuine smile from your teen.

  • A snuggle session with your cat.

  • Your hubby running to the store for you.

  • Sunshine for your afternoon walk.

  • Simply that fact that you woke up this morning.

I have found that when you are starting this practice, either make your list in the evening or keep a note on your phone when you think of something. Often these things slip our mind and we can be tricked into thinking we don’t have anything to be grateful for.

Want a gratitude journal of your own? Remember that there is a space for gratitude in the daily journals and most of our planners!

4. Remind yourself that your situation does not determine your value.

Whether you are in a situation because you screwed something up or through no fault of your own, this mess does not define your worth. You are worthy of love, happiness, joy and financial success no matter what mess you are in right now.

Read those two sentences again. They are important. Please, if you struggle with feelings of worth, read them over and over. Sometimes it is that simple.

You are worthy. This situation does not define you or your worth.

5. Decide how you can be happy if your situation never changes.

I always say that we can make another choice, that we can change direction, that “this” is temporary. But what if it’s not or what if “temporary” actually means years?

Maybe you are in a terrible job situation, your health is subpar, you are in deep debt. How will you still find joy in your life?

If your heath is robbing you of your favorite sport, maybe you will take up painting. If you are in a terrible job, maybe you will start finding one positive thing to say about a co-worker per day. If you are in deep debt, maybe you will find small ways to start paying it off and look at free entertainment choices like watching birds in your backyard.

Just because one part of your life is a mess does not mean you can’t find joy in another part.

During the last thirteen years of dealing with a chronic illness, these five top tips have kept my spirits up. Of course I have hard days. We all have hard days. But when I find myself steering from center, I pull out my trusty five tips and re-center.

Sometimes, these tips are all I focus on. Sometimes I haven’t had to use them for so long that I almost forget what they are. The most important thing for you to remember is that you will need them again.

 Our feelings, life situation and circumstances are always changing. But as long as we have a good set of tools to navigate the crazy waters, we will always make it back to center.

September 1, 2020 by: Nikol Murphy

Academic Year Vertical Weekly Digital Planner Video Walkthrough for 2020-2021

m so excited for you to walk through our new planner!

If you have been looking for a portrait layout or one to use on your iPhone, look no further! I have the perfect weekly planner for you!

In this video, I show you around the planner and how to use some of the basic functions of the Goodnotes app.

But don’t worry! You can also use this planner on Notability, Noteshelf, and XODO.

Head to the shop and buy your planner! 

In this video I cover:

  • How to navigate through your planner
  • How to use the linked tabs, index, and buttons
  • How to add blank pages to your notes and empty tabs
  • How to write, erase, add images to your pages

Products from the video:

This case is similar to the one I have. Buy case here.

My “paperlike” matte screen protector. Buy screen protector here. 

My pencil grip.  Buy pencil case here.

Apple Pencil 1st Generation. Buy your Apple Pencil here. 

Apple iPad 7th Generation 10.9″ Buy your own iPad here.

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